Pack Your Bags: Everything Is a Mindset and a Choice, Sing the Song You Are Scared Of, and Give the Problem to God

This is the Dearing Acting Studio Podcast, where we discuss the connection between life and acting. Alrighty everybody, welcome to the Dearing Acting Studio Podcast. You were doing that so slow, that was… I was trying to get the round of applause going here, but Joey, I didn't know Joey turned down the volume there, which was smart, he had to do that, but I didn't see it. It's like a fade, you know, it was just a slow fade.

Wait, was that a female voice? What the heck just happened? Did you hear that? Was that me? Oh yeah, I mean, they already know she did. Oh, there it is, I see it. Now I hear it. I already switched names. I know, I know. Oh, okay, okay. Not the people listening, not the people listening, Joey. That's true, that's true. The people listening did not know there was a female voice.

Only the watchers. Shea Toepel, what is up, dude? Hi. Dudette, I should say. Hi, everyone. I'm so happy to be here. So we had this crazy thing happen today. I'm doing a lesson, and all of a sudden, Shea just like pops out of nowhere, which you were out and about today. Yeah, and I have, I love to sing in my car, and I just like go through all the songs that I like to work on vocally, and it was great.

So, like, what songs were you working on? Great. Um, oh, what's one of my, what's one of my favorites that I'm doing right now? Yeah, what were you working on today? Today, I worked on, um. She's having a hard time remembering. This is how it goes. Every time, when someone asks you about a song specifically, it leaves. Like, it's something about the music. So, remember, you were in your car, you were singing, remember?

I was working on Snow Patrol. Oh, good. How's that go? Let's hear it. Snow Patrol. No, because it's not, it's not, it's not, like, ready. No, please don't do that. Shea. No. What? You got to sing a tune, sing a bar. Come on, Shea. I'm, I'm the closest thing. Right, and Brian's always just meditate singing. Yeah. In the bag. It's not the same thing. It's not the same thing.

Like, the worst. Joey and I have to shut the door. Because he never shuts the door. He never shuts the door. No, I always forget to shut the door. So, I'm just, like, singing out, meditating. So, like, half the time, we're either talking, or one of us, he's on the phone with, like, a talent marketer. He's like, hey guys, hey guys, hey guys, I'm going to go relax for a minute, and just sort of, like, meditate.

And we're like, all right, cool. And then I hear in the background, ah! He sings his meditation? Yeah, he does. I do, yeah. He's like, well, that's cute. It's very cute, yeah. Dude, honestly, okay, so the only time I've ever had to wake, there was one time I had to wake Brian up from a meditation, because, oh, oh, Paul was here, and he wanted to specifically talk to Brian, and I felt so bad.

And I was like, okay, so I tiptoe in there. I was like, well, I'll just wake him up. And Brian, Brian lays like a corpse, as do I. So, I mean, I'm, like, full on, like, hands across his chest. You're a scary sleeper. I know, I look, and I look, I'm very stiff, I don't move, and Brian's like. You don't, you don't look, sorry, not scary sleeper.

Scary to wake you up, sleeper. Yeah. Because, like, you look peaceful, actually. Yeah. But I'm, like, worried, like, man, like, I feel like I'm really going to disrupt this sleep right now. Like, you're really going to scare me. Yeah. Well, I, I. Also, also, don't think that this story we segwayed into. No, no, no, no, no, no. No, Snow Patrol is on all of our minds right now.

Because the song is going to happen. Yeah. Or, or else the food that needs to be picked up will not. No, so let me tell you what I do, honestly. And it's something I'm working on, so I'm, I'm not comfortable sharing it yet, but. Great, so let's go ahead and, let's go ahead and break through that fear, shall we? No, not right now. But I work on, specifically, um, songs with male vocals.

Great, let's hear it. Because I want to work on my range. Awesome, let's, let's hear what that sounds like. You got this. That's very cool. Come on, Shea. Here, just give us, like, an eight bar. No, not of that song. It's not ready. Okay, then give us, then go ahead and sing that song, then. Shea, if you would, go ahead and spit a quick 16, as the kids say.

Let's see what the last song was that I played. How about the Snow Patrol? I want to hear Snow Patrol. Come on, Shea. You've been working on it. Here's the deal, Shea. This is a, this is a great example for you to showcase to everybody what it's like to overcome your fears. She is sending you the evil eyes. That's why I'm not looking at her. I'm looking at Brian.

Oh, my gosh. I am looking. Wow. As a matter of fact, I do like this setup because what's nice is if I want to say something to Shea and then look over at Brian, I can do that and pretend like I can't feel. And the other way, I'm sure, on different days. Shea's eyes. Just like most team podcasts, Brian hasn't said a word yet. Okay, so Snow Patrol, how's it go?

It sounds like a great song. So it's like a, like a, a melody kind of song or how's it go? Like a rap? It's definitely not a rap, but I did come up with a good one today. I'm going to remix the Slim Shady song. Okay. So it's guess who's back, back, back, Shea is back. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, it's great. But how's Snow Patrol going? I don't know.

I don't remember. Shea, come on, dog. Shea, you know what it is. Here's the problem. Now you're this far in. Oh, my God. Now I've already said it. You guys, I know I'm so talented. I just don't want to showcase it. You know, I've just been working on this thing. And it's, it's terrible to have such a, such an amazing voice and all this voiceover equipment. That's what we hear, wouldn't we?

Or I'll tell you what, or we can listen to Brian's meditation song. Yes. No, don't put our listeners through this, Shea. You guys could just go back to a chapel and see it there. That's okay. Oh, my God. Did you sing it during chapel? Yeah, I did. Yeah, I did. I bless the children. Yeah, because it was terrifying. And I bless the teachers. Because I'd never done it, and it was super terrifying.

And so I was like, I was talking about doing like a fearful thing. And it's like, I thought this would be a great example. It is good, Shea. I'm going to do something crazy, crazy scary. You're right, Shea. It is good. You're absolutely right. These are the kids that you talk to, as a matter of fact. These are the ones that are probably listening right now. What did I do my talk on?

I respect her. You guys remember? Kindness. Kindness. Being kind. I got a new, I wore my shirt specifically for you today. So what is more kind than showcasing your voice for some young kids? Can I sing something different than that? I mean, I feel like Snow Patrol has been said so many times. I don't even know what that song is. So you can totally screw it up, and I'll have no idea.

Literally nobody's heard of it, and I highly doubt our listeners that. Is it like, there's like, Snow Patrol, Snow Patrol, Snow Patrol, Snow Patrol. You know it, you know it. Maybe it's like Paw Patrol. Is it appropriate? Is that the… Snow Patrol. You guys have heard this… Snow Patrol, Snow… Come on, Shea. Is it like, it's what they sing to the kids during ski school? Snow Patrol is the song that you've heard in every movie that's…

Wait, how's it go? I don't even know. Oh. It's like singing like an eight… It's about it all. It ends on my own. Oh, I like that song. That sounds really cool. If I lie here. If I just lie here. Would you lie with me and just forget the world? Yay. Wow, that's great. We got there. Thank you, guys. All right. You're very good. Thank you for singing with me.

Yeah, see, we can always sing. Sing off key to make you sound good. I'm going to be really honest with you. Okay. There's a lot of things, you guys, that Matt has asked me to trust him to do on stage, and I've gotten so good at just doing them, and it makes me feel… Yeah, clearly identified today, by the way. That's what I'm saying. I have always really had a tough time, and it really…

Yeah, I mean, it didn't take… It really bothers me to sing in front of people. Didn't take any time at all. I know, and you know what? And it's something I have to get over, and I know that, but… But you're brave, and good job for doing it. And here's the thing. Every time you do it once, every time you get over it one more time, it becomes easier.

So here, let me tell you how much I love you, okay? So much. Why would I do this to you? Why would I do it to me? To help me get over a fear. That's right. Knowing how uncomfortable it is. Yeah. I begged my wife for years to share her talent, and she would not do it. She'd jump on the piano. She would improvise songs brilliantly. Yeah.

So funny. Rolling out of your chair. We have a studio. We have a troupe. Yeah. We have a piano. Like, back in the day, we had everything lined up. And I'm like, babe, you will bring the house to us. She would not do it. She refused. But, like, on the spot. Improvised on the spot. She literally rhymes and makes it up as she goes. It's crazy. They're phenomenal.

Like, literally, literally, she's making a living now on it, but she wouldn't touch it for, like, five years, and I begged her. Why? Because I don't care. Like, I just, I'm like, babe, you should do this because it's going to be awesome and people are going to love you for it. Like, you got to trust me here. Yes. Like, this is a good thing, you know? So this is crazy.

I mean, look at him. 100%. I also have the best light because I'm in the middle. So, that's pretty good. That's what it is, Joey. You ruined it. You ruined it for yourself. No, it's not the light. I was just pointing it out. Where's the, oh? He's just going to hit every button. Oh, no. No, no, no. Here's something. There we go. I found it. Yay. I did all the sound effects.

What are you doing? Lord, I pray. Oh, that's Brian. That's Brian's meditation. Oh, that's great. I had this set up earlier just so that we could give him a little taste of what it sounds like. I got it. I appreciate that. It's really nice. It's really nice. You know what, though? Jumping on the whole, like, building on things, right? So part of it was fear, but also part of it with that is I stopped caring in those ways.

Now, I should shut the door 100%. But it stemmed off of Paul saying that that's a gifting. It's a gifting you have. And so he was helping me through meditations and going through stuff like a year ago. And through those meditations, like, he was getting led, and they were getting led that basically I have this gift, specifically in music, in my voice. And that's where, because I was singing in my sleep in the meditation uncontrollably.

Like, I had no idea I did it. I recorded it, and it was like, and I was singing worship music in my sleep, right? Joey was terrified by it. Yeah, it's pretty creepy when you hear somebody singing down the hallway, and then you walk in. And he's walking in their sleep. But he said it was a gift. It was a gift that I have. And I finally realized that it's my responsibility.

Like, if this is a gift I have, it's my responsibility to be using that gift and working on that gift. So, yeah. 100 P, bro. 100 P. Definitely 100 P. I wish I'd meditated and sang worship songs in my sleep. Like, I pretty much feel like you've got a guaranteed golden ticket up there, my guy. Let's not say that. That's just how I wish it. No, no, no, like, you're going to get up there and go to the pearly white gates, and he's going to be like, oh, this guy sings worship songs in his sleep.

Like, just let him in. I'm only asking because I have, but I'm wondering if anybody else has. Dude, I get, like, scary dreams. Do you? Yeah. Yeah. What are they? I don't know. Like, my dreams are really, really hard to remember, but I just remember, like, every time I wake up, I'll wake up like, you know? Oh, that's stressful. You know? Like, it's weird, because that never used to having to be before, but now I'm just like, ah, when I wake up.

But you don't know what the dream is? No. I mean, uh. So we don't really know it's scary. Yeah. I mean, if you wake up like that, then it's a scary dream. Like, I remember that it was scary. I just don't remember all the details. Was it, like, a monster or something? No, definitely not a monster. Sometimes it's work-related. Sometimes Joey's like, no, I can't do that project.

I swear. So he gets scared that he's got to show up. Matt, I don't want to re-edit it for a 75th time. No, that's 100%. I've seen that happen. Okay. Well, no, so that makes, that's what I was asking, but I figured you wouldn't say it, so now, but we know the truth now. Well, but I didn't remember that, so that's the thing. I just hear it, because he talks into sleep.

Got it. Got it. Well, I've been having these dreams, work-related, though. So I'll wake up, and I'm doing the show, the morning with Matt show, and things are going wrong, and I'm somehow doing it from bed. What? Like, I'm trying to, I'm trying to, like, still, like, make my time. Yeah. And I'm doing it from the bed. The kids are, like, crawling on me, and, like, everything's in the way, but I'm still trying to get the show done, and I'm panicked.

And, like, my heart is beating, and then I wake up, and I'm like, ugh. And I'm like, oh, I gotta get up and go, you know. But it's been weird. It's been about, like, four days in a row this has happened to me. That's, I, that's stressful. It's so stressful. And, like, the mic, the mic won't be working, or, like, whatever. Like, the little technical things. Yeah, like, that's, that's been, like, my mind has been on that, apparently just reeling on new ways of doing things, probably.

Because I've, I've given it over to the subconscious mind to solve this problem here. Yeah. And so. That's scary. It's, it's working right now, over time. And I'm, I mean, I'm kind of excited about it, because I'm sure some really cool things are going on. I was going to say, that's also, I mean, anyone can do kind of, like, I guess they can learn to do that, but that's, again, going back to giftings and different things.

So, I mean, we joked about that. You got the key to the gates, but everybody's given different things and abilities. And so, like, like, you're working your mind, and, like, probably God's, like, showing you things. Who knows what? You need, like, a Joseph. Like, come in and be like, here's what that means. But, I don't know. There's something to being able to, you're working stuff in your mind still.

I don't know. Yeah. Well, and, and the, the concept of give it over to your subconscious mind, that, that is a, a terminology used in the book, The Secret. And, you know, that movie that came out and all that. And, and the thing is, that, that movie got a lot of slack, because you basically, they're like, ooh, you just think it, and it comes true. Wasn't that the part of the Da Vinci series?

No. Like, the Da Vinci Code? No, it was like, it was just like this movie that got really popular really fast. Oh, okay. It was like this up and down thing where, basically, the idea of, like, you think it, you believe it, it's going to come true, you know. But the way they presented it was a little bit fairytale-ish, you know. Oh, gotcha. So it didn't, it didn't really include the work.

Like, I dream of genie. Yeah. As a matter of fact, there is a genie in the movie. Oh, okay. Yeah. No. So, but, but the, there are some good concepts in there. Yeah. And so, when I say give it up to the subconscious mind, for me, it's, it's give it up to God. Yeah. That's what I'm doing. You turn it over. But, you have to listen. You have to listen intently to what the Spirit's telling you, and then you got to go full force, and then wait to be redirected.

But, if you do that, literally, your subconscious mind will work while you sleep. So, it'll be, God will be solving the problems for you, like he already is, but you kind of get out of the way. Yeah. Because you're not fighting against it anymore. Right. And you're saying, okay, I give this up to you. Here's the issue. I'm not going to stress over it anymore. I'm just going to do what I can do, but I know that this thing's got to get solved, so I'm programming it in here for me to think about this while I'm not, like, actively thinking.

Right. And then it will come up in your meditation, prayer singing, or you're sleeping, or things like that. Dreams are, I don't know if I love dreaming. I don't think I do. Because all the big dreams that I can remember, like, I had so many, which is very common the year before I got married, the year I was engaged, and I had so many wedding failure dreams.

So many. And then I had one that was, like, really, really scary, where Jake died in my dream. And I thought about it for months, like, for months. I researched it, tried to figure out what it meant, and I just got too obsessed with it. And I guess I just don't really put a lot of stake in my dreams, probably because I'm scared of what they probably really mean.

So I just don't hold a lot of stake in them. Well, so in some ways, and you shouldn't. I mean, obviously, they're dreams. I mean, so it's, but what, I think what's going on in your mind is your mind's just playing with these ideas of, it's mixing and matching things. Right. So you might have been, you know, fantasizing about Jake and loving Jake, but you watched, like, a Criminal Minds or something.

Exactly. And you mush those two things together, and, you know, and it comes out to this thing. Yeah. But it also kind of, it does, I think, maybe, bring to light some of the stuff that's going on. So even if you take the Jake dying dream, all it's doing is bringing up one of your worst fears. Yes. Which is then actually just exposing how much you love him.

Yeah. So you wrap your mind around that, you reframe it, and you go, oh, this, I'm just dreaming about you because I clearly love you so much. Yeah. Like, this is something that terrifies me. It popped up in my dream for whatever reason. What am I going to do with that? Yeah. Well, maybe I'll love you a little harder today. Yeah, for sure. Or something, you know.

And it's got, there has to be something about it, and, like, I think the dreams that are most interesting are the ones that repeat themselves. I've told you guys I have my spider dream all the time. And, like, the ones that the girl who sat next to you in the third grade was there. And, like, those always catch me off guard. Like, I'm like, where were you in my subconscious?

Like, and how did you pop in there? And there's got to be a reason why. Yeah. There has to be. And because I just don't like feeling like, whoa, that was just weird. Like, I want to know. I want to know why I was thinking about that girl and why, when I didn't, when I wasn't even thinking about her. And she was just there, you know? It's weird.

No, because my, well, according to Paul, right? So my, I don't know, spiritual something on the other side there, like, I'm a warrior. Mm-hmm. And I don't remember what you are. I don't remember either. It ain't a warrior, though, but he's got special powers. Like Brian, he said earlier, he's got special powers. So basically, we've been put together for a reason. Yeah. And I don't know what you are, Shea.

Like, you might be a warrior, too, but the idea is, like, you put together these, like, the right energies, and it works. And you need, you need the different energies, you know? For sure. So if there's, like, put it this way. If somebody came in here, you know darn well I'm the first one to grab a bat. A hundred percent. As a matter of fact, once I said that, the first thing that came to my mind is I'm going, okay, what's, like, I would actually pick this up.

I just, like, I picked the thing right away, and I'm going, this is what I hit the guy in the head with. So don't come in here. Don't do it. But you know what I'm saying? Like, that's where my mind goes. Yeah. Yeah. And my mind does not. You start singing, I think. Probably. Probably. I don't know. I probably, I don't know what I'd do. Joey would be like, let me get you a bubbly.

How about an espressi? And I would just cry. No, I think Joey, Joey would, Joey would not be first. He would not be first to run in. I think he'd run backwards at first. He'd see me going forward, grab a chair. He'd have my back. Yeah, he would. And if I got leveled up, I think, I think Joey would be swinging as I'm going down. Probably. This is probably true.

Yeah. That's my guess. I think what's cool. I think I would be the first one if there was a firearm involved. Because I would just be like, yo. Got you. Got this one. No, no, no. Not that. Yeah, maybe. But also because I would go like this, Joey, catch. I don't know. Yeah. Anybody would do that. I think it's pretty cool because I feel like really deep down in my heart, you guys would do, probably one of your first thoughts would be to get me out of wherever we were.

Yeah, of course. And to protect me. 100%. Which is pretty cool. But I don't, see, here's the thing. I also know you a little bit. Yeah. And you're a bit of a lioness. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But it comes down to it, yeah. You're not going to tuck and run either. No, I wouldn't. You'd let us take the front line for sure. Yeah. But I know for a fact you'd be like.

I'd come in there and save something if I had to. Well, no, you'd just be looking. You'd be looking to see, am I needed? Yeah. Like, this is just another one of those cases where Brian is the bottom of the friend pyramid. Possibly. Possibly. No, I don't know. I'd run in, honestly. Oh, yeah. My thing is, I don't, there are people like Matt who have the immediate instinct.

Yeah. Like, let me, I'm not one of those people. But I am a have your back guy. Yeah, that's what I was going to say. I would share immediately and I would. Yeah, I actually believe, here's what Brian would do. Because he's just willing to just lay it out for you. Yeah. He would do that. So he would jump in there, just get his butt kicked. I would get my butt kicked.

Yeah, Brian would die towards it. So he would go in there and it would be no use other than to distract the guy for a second so Joey and I could beat on him. Absolutely. Right? Yeah. Like, that's what would happen. Absolutely. And that's an amazing thing. Oh, yeah. For real, for real. Like, that's huge. Dude, I've owned that. I've decided, like, because, like, you could change if I wanted to really change a physical whatever, but I don't.

But also, like, think about this, too. It also depends on the energies. Yeah. Yeah. Because if I'm not in the room and it's you and, like, your girlfriend or something like that. That's different. All of a sudden, the beast in you comes out. That's right. That's different. And I've seen the beast and the beast exists. He exists and, yeah. And he's scary. The beast is scary. The beast hides under the forehead veins.

So, he does. Yeah. That's exactly where he lives. I want to hit a little transition here because I know Shea has to go for something. We're not letting her leave. There's no way. When you hear why, you're going to absolutely have. Is it about the snowbird thing? No. This is about snowbird. Oh. This is about go, Shea. So, today was kind of a weird day. And I woke up because my girlfriend tagged me in the post.

And so, I am currently, right now, at this moment, supposed to be in Barcelona on my honeymoon. Oh. Yeah. Dang. And so, that sucks. Yeah. And she tagged me in the post. And it was a bummer. Like, both Jake and I were like, man. Like, you know, and if you guys knew how much Cropola we've had to go through to fix this. And we planned this for a year.

Yeah. Like, we did, we did everything right that we were supposed to do. And we did everything. And it got ripped away. That was out of our control. And, and it was funny because I remember having this thought a while back. Like, holy moly. Okay. Yes, you can be upset for a second. And, um, but I said, when this whole thing, when we finally decided, okay, this isn't happening probably about a month and a half ago, I really, really came into reality.

You'll get to go on your, on your European vacation at some time. But, but this isn't meant for you right now. And you need to be doing what you can do to make yourself better. And, and what's cool about today is, um, I've gotten to be so productive. I got to come see you guys. I, I got to go do another cool thing for someone else today.

And, um, so my sweet husband sitting on stairs yesterday, we're drinking a smoothie. I'm downstairs on my computer. He's sitting on the stairs and he said, so I have an idea for tomorrow. I said, okay. And he said, I'd like to order tapas and sangria from a restaurant. And we're going to have a date and pretend we're in Barcelona. That's so cool. Cause I think that'd be really cool.

So we can celebrate our honeymoon like that. And, um, and he, and then he was texting me earlier and he's like, that's so stupid. Like, we'll just, we'll just make food at home. I was like, no, it's not stupid. It's a great idea and it's sweet and it's kind. And, and it, it's that type of stuff that is like, like, sure, it's a bummer, but, but these last couple of weeks have been been such a blessing and working for this place and doing all that we've been doing.

Like, sure. I had my moment today where I was like, bummer dude. Like I'd be in, I'd be on a beach in Barcelona, but everything is good. And life is really good right now. And we're trying to make the most of it. Are you still, are you still crushing every day? Every day. I have not had one day where I have not busted my butt. I'm so happy for you.

You know, you have no idea the amount of euphoric joy I've got for you. So like seven to six 30 or six. And I texted the boys and I was like, can you guys handle mornings with Matt? I need to shut my eyes. Like I'm so tired. I haven't eaten well today as in I hadn't eaten anything and just need to close my eyes. And, um, what I did instead, which thank you guys for, for taking over.

Cause I ate a little bit and then I did an hour long kickboxing workout on my TV and I felt like a million bucks afterwards. And it was so great. And in my head I was like, I just want to go to sleep. But what my body was telling me was you haven't moved yet today. Yeah. You got to do something. Cause now it's used to it.

And today, you're, and you're, you're choosing the new, the new associations. Yeah. And that's what I've said. It's going to be hard. It's going to get harder. It's like, it's always going to be hard. Yeah. But then when you remember and you go, wait a minute, wait a minute, stop it. Stop saying this. Cause that's a lie. I'm not going to listen to the liar anymore. I'm going to tap into what's real.

Right. And it was like, I just felt so much better. And I was able to get back on with them and, and crush for adult class. And it was just like, that, that's what it needed when I thought I needed to just close my eyes and take a rest. It turned out the rest that I needed was to rev my body up a little bit and give it what it wanted.

Um, so it just is, I don't know, man, I've just, I've just changed my, I've changed everything. And I think what's interesting is, is like, I wanted to be different before we went to Spain. I wanted to look different, I wanted to be tan. Like I wanted all these things before we went on this vacation and I wouldn't have been doing what I'm doing right now. If we went, I just wouldn't have, I would have been busy packing and I would have been busy, you know, making all my lists for you guys to do while I'm gone.

And, and, and while those things are important and will happen at some point, the stuff that I've been able to do because I didn't go on this trip is like unbelievable. Yeah. And I don't, and I, that's why I'm saying this trip was not meant for us right now. So, and you know, I remember the day I could feel it before you told me Shea, before you said you had, you had your awakening or other.

So you probably just didn't tell me cause you were like, I don't know if it's real or not yet or something. I don't know. But I remember I could feel it. So I, that's why I challenged you to wake up earlier. Yeah. And I told you that, but, but I'm like, I don't do that when you're not doing well. Right. But when you're crushing it, I'll go, I wonder if she can handle a little more right now.

Right. And now I'm hearing from you like, Hey, she can handle more. Like I want to actually, I want to throw you more things like that. And it's not, it's not more work. It's more of that rev. Like there's, there's all these ways you can rev yourself up and I'm still figuring them out, but I'm, I'm three years in now of this mental game. Cause it's a freaking game.

Let me tell you. But as you, as you start to do it, it's like, it's awesome. Like it feels good. You can at any time just snap your mind into, into positivity. Right. And like I said, like all the stress and all the different things, I'm feeling it. There's no way I'm not feeling it. Of course, you know? Yes. Um, but when you, when you just choose to, okay, I'm going to take this, I'm going to wrap it around this idea.

I'm going to take that, wrap it around that idea. Then I'm going to say, here's the whole problem. So let's just say, get this right. Um, I'm going to throw this out there and we're getting, and here's the, there's a power of group mind. Like an improv. It's the same thing with this subconscious mind deal and it's prayer, right? So this is group prayer. Let's put ourselves in church.

So here it is. Here's the problem. The problem is Shea didn't get to go on the trip to Barcelona. That's the problem. Okay. Which is like, it's, it sounds so cringy. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, it's not cringy. There's nothing cringy about it. You know, when, when you, when you look forward to it, I mean, literally, and I mean this from my whole heart, the guys here, we're looking forward to you going because we, we want you to be happy.

You know what I mean? So like whenever you love someone, you're like, Hey, like I want them to do whatever, you know, fills their boat. And I knew it was something you were looking forward to. So we were all thrilled for you to go. Um, and so we still are. Yeah. So now we're just like, Hey, there's the problem. We're not going to worry about the solution, but we know it's going to come.

We believe it's going to come with our whole hearts and together collectively as we sleep, I will probably have nightmares about how to, how, how you're not there at the airport on time or whatever. And, and what's, what's amazing is if we put our powers to it, it's going to be a 10 X trip. So whatever, whatever the trip was before now, now, now the next time around, it's going to be, it's going to be a whole new experience, better experience, totally something that you wouldn't have been able to have had you gone earlier.

Yeah. So, so that's, that's, I'm throwing that out there right now. I love that. The problem is still there, but we're not going to worry about it. And we're going to trust that collectively times the power of four, this trip's going to happen and it's going to happen really, really big. Yeah. I think you're right. And I appreciate that. And I, I want to, I want to clarify.

I said something earlier that I want to make sure I clarify so it doesn't come out the way that I think it did. You know, I, I said, but also I'm not going to go back on it. Cause I said, you know, life is good, man. I'm going to go back in it, but I'm not going to go back in it. I'm not because I believe that for myself.

Like life is good. I'm, I'm having a good life right now. I have a great marriage. I can count all these things. And the reason why I say it's so good is because I have people who are behind me who just won't quit. And I'm lucky to have that. And I'm very lucky to be able to say life is good right now. Well, and we have purpose, you know, we have purpose because we've chosen to have purpose.

Yeah. And that there's, there's almost nothing more valuable because the human spirit needs something to strive for. Yeah. People need purpose. Like, that's the big thing. Yeah. Oh, absolutely. What were you going to say, Brian? I was going to say, uh, and it's all mindset. I mean, cause right now you're about to go to Barcelona. Right. That's it. And so literally like, like you're, you, you're going to go because you gotta get to Barcelona right now.

Yeah. Yeah. And, and, and you're crushing. So I will clarify what you said. You're, you're crushing life. Every day is good, but it's a choice. It didn't mean you didn't feel like getting up. It didn't like, it didn't mean any of that stuff. That stuff's still there. It's just the way you look at it. Yeah. And as soon as you figure that out, it's like, I can be happy today.

If you choose to. Yeah. I can be happy. Absolutely. And even the circumstances that you're going through, you know, you are not your circumstances and, and making the choice is so hard right now in this, in this world, making the choice because we have so many other easier choices in front of us. Totally. And we could choose. I'm, I'm a little excited because I've, I've, we have at least experienced more people on the gratitude side.

Mm-hmm. Definitely. Yeah. Oh yeah. More than I think we knew that we would. And there's been more love and gratitude from our students and the people that support us. Um, then, and it's been, they vocalized it, which I think is really cool. Cause I think it was always there, but it's been vocalized because there was a chance it could have been ripped away. So true. All right, Shea, go pack your bags.

I will go to Barcelona now. Yeah. Hey, girl. Hey, we found it. All right, everybody. Thank you so much for listening to the Dearing Acting Studio Podcast. Today, you should have learned that everything is a mindset and a choice, no matter the situation. Have a Dearing day, everyone.